Thursday, May 23, 2013

My 15-year old hates me...

Adapted from Education.com...

My 15 y/o son insists that I left him alone throughout his childhood.  For the last couple of years he tells me he hates. He acts out in school, doesn't do school work and he smokes pot. The last 5 months were better as far as him hugging me and telling me he loves me, until today.  He got in trouble in school.  He said I told him he was a mistake.  I did not say that to him. He always twists what is said. I said he disappointed me and that he means the world to me.  He hates me again and is insisting I left him alone as a child and that is where I messed up as a mother.  He will not listen to me.  How do I change what he believes.


Expert

Dr.Monika
May 23, 2013

What the Expert Says:

Your son's acting out and using drugs are cries for help.  Sounds like there is something going on with him on the emotional level.  Has he been depressed?  Moody?  Doe she get outbursts of anger?  Any of these, or even the sole fact that he uses drugs, need attention of an adolescent therapist as soon as possible.  Your son's regular health care provider will be able to refer you to one in the community.

Best regards.

Friday, May 17, 2013

How to Deal With a Child Jealous of a Dog

Q: 

My 4-year-old son is mean to our dog, Mac. He says "that's not my dog, it's your dog." He gets mad when Mac follows me around the house.I try explaining that I raised Mac, and he's just being protective. I've tried getting him to interact with Mac by having him do tricks and giving him a treat...but my son ends up teasing Mac with the treat and not wanting to give it to him...What should i do?


A:

Have you ever watched the show "The Dog Whisperer" with Cesar Millan?  You might want to watch it with you son so that he can learn that dogs are pack animals.  They like to have a family and they like to have a leader.  If they do not have a leader they act out by constantly barking or misbehaving in various ways.  Tell your son that everybody in the family, including him, should learn to be a pack leader so that the dog can respect them.  When there is a dog in the family, the dog belongs to everybody, and everybody needs to learn how to be "calm assertive" with the dog, to give him guidance (discipline), exercise, and affection.